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What is the difference between having empathy and being an empath? "Having empathy means our heart goes out to another person in joy or pain," says Dr. Judith Orloff. "But for empaths it goes much further. We actually feel others' emotions, energy, and physical symptoms in our own bodies, without the usual defenses that most people have." The Empath's Survival Guide is an What is the difference between having empathy and being an empath? "Having empathy means our heart goes out to another person in joy or pain," says Dr. Judith Orloff. "But for empaths it goes much further. We actually feel others' emotions, energy, and physical symptoms in our own bodies, without the usual defenses that most people have." The Empath's Survival Guide is an invaluable resource for empaths and anyone who wants to nurture their empathy and develop coping skills in our high-stimulus world--while fully embracing their gifts of intuition, compassion, creativity, and spiritual connection. This practical, empowering, and loving book was created to support empaths through their unique challenges and help loved ones better understand the empath's needs and gifts. Dr. Orloff offers crucial practices, including: - Exercises to help you identify your empath type and where you are on the empathy spectrum - Tools for protecting yourself from sensory overload, exhaustion, addictions, and compassion fatigue while replenishing your vital energy - Simple, effective strategies to stop absorbing stress and physical symptoms from others and protect yourself from narcissists and other energy vampires - How to find the right work that feeds you - How to navigate intimate relationships without feeling overwhelmed - Guidance for parenting and raising empathic children - Awakening the empath's gift of intuition and deepening your spiritual connection to all living beings For any sensitive person who's been told to "grow a thick skin," here is a lifelong guide for staying fully open while building resilience, exploring your gifts of depth and compassion, and feeling welcome and valued by a world that desperately needs what you have to offer.


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What is the difference between having empathy and being an empath? "Having empathy means our heart goes out to another person in joy or pain," says Dr. Judith Orloff. "But for empaths it goes much further. We actually feel others' emotions, energy, and physical symptoms in our own bodies, without the usual defenses that most people have." The Empath's Survival Guide is an What is the difference between having empathy and being an empath? "Having empathy means our heart goes out to another person in joy or pain," says Dr. Judith Orloff. "But for empaths it goes much further. We actually feel others' emotions, energy, and physical symptoms in our own bodies, without the usual defenses that most people have." The Empath's Survival Guide is an invaluable resource for empaths and anyone who wants to nurture their empathy and develop coping skills in our high-stimulus world--while fully embracing their gifts of intuition, compassion, creativity, and spiritual connection. This practical, empowering, and loving book was created to support empaths through their unique challenges and help loved ones better understand the empath's needs and gifts. Dr. Orloff offers crucial practices, including: - Exercises to help you identify your empath type and where you are on the empathy spectrum - Tools for protecting yourself from sensory overload, exhaustion, addictions, and compassion fatigue while replenishing your vital energy - Simple, effective strategies to stop absorbing stress and physical symptoms from others and protect yourself from narcissists and other energy vampires - How to find the right work that feeds you - How to navigate intimate relationships without feeling overwhelmed - Guidance for parenting and raising empathic children - Awakening the empath's gift of intuition and deepening your spiritual connection to all living beings For any sensitive person who's been told to "grow a thick skin," here is a lifelong guide for staying fully open while building resilience, exploring your gifts of depth and compassion, and feeling welcome and valued by a world that desperately needs what you have to offer.

30 review for The Empath's Survival Guide: Life Strategies for Sensitive People

  1. 5 out of 5

    JV (semi-hiatus)

    "Not everyone will understand you, but that’s okay. Search for kindred spirits who will, and you will understand them too. It’s a beautiful feeling of connection." I have to thank my spirit animal Spongebob (a sea sponge and therefore, belongs to Kingdom Animalia) here for clinically demonstrating what it means to have sensory overload most of the time. Being an empath all my life, I felt that I have been both blessed and cursed in various ways. Speaking of my worthy spirit animal, I am liter "Not everyone will understand you, but that’s okay. Search for kindred spirits who will, and you will understand them too. It’s a beautiful feeling of connection." I have to thank my spirit animal Spongebob (a sea sponge and therefore, belongs to Kingdom Animalia) here for clinically demonstrating what it means to have sensory overload most of the time. Being an empath all my life, I felt that I have been both blessed and cursed in various ways. Speaking of my worthy spirit animal, I am literally figuratively a sponge as Dr. Orloff describes it: "Empaths are emotional sponges who absorb both the stress and joy of the world. We feel everything, often to an extreme, and have little guard up between others and ourselves." Numerous people (including my family) always tells me to toughen up, have a thick skin, get a grip, and whatnots — well, thank you very much, I'm presuming that you're one brick short of a full load to tell that preposterous advice to an intuitive empath without even understanding how one thinks and feels. Oh, the horrors! And when it comes to generosity, Dr. Orloff succinctly puts it this way (that's something that I can relate to as well): "We have such big hearts that we often err on the side of giving too much to family, friends, spouses, and children. This wears us out. We help too much, we give too much, but we don’t receive enough. Finding balance is of paramount importance for protecting our own energy. Both giving love and receiving love is the recipe for a fulfilling relationship." If only I can manage this one. More often than not, I give too much and it's certainly a problem that is deeply rooted in my personality (being an INFJ). And I think my mental health suffers too because of being an emotional empath. Although this book is both enlightening and beneficial, there are protective techniques here that I find rather mystical such as sacred beads, crystals, protective stones, energetic cleansing rituals, feng shui, and others which I'm sceptical about. The first few pages started scientifically well, but shortly after that, everything went kaput (at least for this reader). Some of the meditation techniques are particularly useful, others are peculiar for my taste (e.g. imagine a shield of bright light enveloping you, etc.). While the The Empath's Survival Guide: Life Strategies for Sensitive People might not be the best book for empaths, it's definitely a good book to start with. And if you're particularly curious if you're indeed a true empath, take this self-assessment: Calculate your results and refer to this: Yes to 1 to 5 questions = Partial empath Yes to 6 to 10 questions = Moderate empath tendencies Yes to 11 to 15 questions = Strong empath tendencies Yes to more than 15 questions = Full-blown empath Yup, and I scored 17 out of 20. My gratitude, dear Spongebob. You'll always be my spirit animal!

  2. 5 out of 5

    Malorie

    I absolutely hated this book. It was recommended to me by my new therapist and it has definitely served the purpose of making me distrust my therapist and any continued treatment. First the positives: - There were some good tools for setting up alone time with your romantic partner. It can be very difficult for people to express that particular need because of a tendency for others to react poorly. I felt that the book addressed that fairly well. - There was a suggestion for professionals in a c I absolutely hated this book. It was recommended to me by my new therapist and it has definitely served the purpose of making me distrust my therapist and any continued treatment. First the positives: - There were some good tools for setting up alone time with your romantic partner. It can be very difficult for people to express that particular need because of a tendency for others to react poorly. I felt that the book addressed that fairly well. - There was a suggestion for professionals in a caring profession to protect themselves by coming up with three distinct features that distinguish you from a person whose feelings you are taking on as a quick and easy way to throw up a barrier by simply recognizing that you are not the same and that their emotions are theirs. I think that is potentially helpful in any situation. - The suggestions were all detailed in the back in an easily comprehended format which I think is a virtue in any book of this type (sort of a consolation prize here). The negatives: -Virtually every other aspect. - The book is grotesquely formulaic and suffers for it. It tries to cover a wide span of info identifying an empath without giving comprehensive information on what that means or really how to interpret it on a day to day basis. And as a person that used to do copywriting and copy editing for exactly these types of books, it reeked of a specific breed of formulaic writing that is geared toward making money (now that you have purchased my book, here buy my audio program and then also my platform) while starting from a place of good intention. I have no doubt that this person feels genuinely like she is helping people, but I also feel that impact is greater than intent and this type of corporate structuring is a conflict of interest. - This is a repackaging of The Power of Positive Thinking but the You're Special Because You're Highly Sensitive version. I am a highly sensitive person. I found this approach to be insulting. - It is vastly appropriate that the ties to spirituality that the author makes are present with typical positive thinking practice as the origin of Positive thinking is spiritualism of the late Victorian era. - She advocates 12 step programs which are notoriously ineffective. - The sources listed in this book are things such as HeartMath. These are NOT credible sources. Her use of sources like this sets my teeth on edge. - There was some gendered nonsense in this book that was entirely unnecessary, especially because research in HSP or SPS shows that there is no difference in men or women (except for how they respond to the diagnostic which is most likely a result of conditioning, not inherent gender trait). - There is a heavy focus on new age spiritualism, and this books brings with it a lot of the flaws--namely wishy-washy appropriative practice. - Along with the aforementioned heavy-handed spirituality, there is also a hefty presence of pseudoscience. Ultimately, I found this book to be a very negative experience. I think that positive thinking is an insidious practice that was backed by a lot of junk science that has since been shown to have been junk. I find this type of practice to be really insulting when addressing my other mental health issues and trauma bonds. I felt like this book excuses and encourages behavior that I don't think is excusable (even being highly sensitive, there are limits to the expectations you can place on other people in regards to checking your own behavior) and attempts to elevate being highly sensitive in a way that implies that it is better than being "normal", despite perhaps being slightly difficult to live with. The language was grating, not detail oriented, and lacked citation. The text itself was very repetitive (ironic considering how many times she mentioned that being repetitive was negative when trying to communicate as an empath or with an empath). The meditation practice is fairly standard body awareness but is detailed much better in MANY other sources. There is nothing original here. I am very disappointed that my library did not have this book in stock so that I purchased it. Although, now that I think of it, perhaps I should be glad.

  3. 4 out of 5

    Janessa

    The book I needed at the age of ten. Insightful. Informative. Compassionate.

  4. 4 out of 5

    Rachel Klara Richardson Chapman

    "If you feel as if you don't fit into this world. It's because you're here to create a better one." "Along with shielding, daily self-care for empaths involves eating well & minimizing stress. In addition, certain actions are a balm for both body & soul. These include taking quiet alone time, associating with positive people, being in nature, immersing yourself in water to clear negative energy, meditating, exercising, & defining limits with energy vampires. Empaths need to regularly incorporate "If you feel as if you don't fit into this world. It's because you're here to create a better one." "Along with shielding, daily self-care for empaths involves eating well & minimizing stress. In addition, certain actions are a balm for both body & soul. These include taking quiet alone time, associating with positive people, being in nature, immersing yourself in water to clear negative energy, meditating, exercising, & defining limits with energy vampires. Empaths need to regularly incorporate these forms of self-care into their lives." "The people who are sensitive in life may suffer much more than those who are insensitive. But if they understand & go beyond their suffering, they will discover extraordinary things." Jiddu Krishnamurti 14STRATEGIES 1. Symptom or Emotion Mine or Someone Else? (Grow Healthier) 2. Breathe & Reject Negativity (Lower Lumbar) 3. Step Away (20ft+) 4. Limit Physical Contact (Eyes & Touch) 5. Water Detox (Epsom Salt & Lavender) 6. Limits & Boundaries (No.) (Retrain Communication Patterns) 7. Cord Cutting 8. Alone Time (Decrease External Stimulation) 9. Time Outdoors/Nature/Natural (Barefoot. Retreats) 10. Sleep & Power Naps (Restful Environment. Calm Time Before Rest. Wake Slowly) 11. Online FASTING 12. Traveling (Shield. Focus on Feet. Cleansing Prayer. Water & Protein. Breath. Meditate) 13. Heart Meditation (Hand. Heart. Shepherd Jesus: Protected. Loved. Safe) 14. Fully Present in Body (Temple of the H.S.) "Feel satiated by the nourishing love that is dissolving your fears & discomforts. Enjoy this feeling of self-soothing. You have the power to stabilize your mood & energy level in mediation. Inhale & exhale completely, & know that all is well." God loves me & He is in control. "A lack of mutual understanding just isn't viable for empaths if we want to feel good." "In a soul mate relationship, both people are dedicated to their own & the other's growth. A soul mate isn't perfect.... (When) choosing who we get involved with, we must decide which set of problems we're most okay handling!... (The relationship) has the ability to teach us to open our hearts & heal our wounds in ourselves." "Empaths feel a soul connection with someone that's more about energy than words. Be aware of the way you relate to a person's energy. Notice whether the person's words match their energy.... Do not give your heart to people unless they show themselves to be worthy of your love." Emotional Types: Intellectual/Intense Thinker, Empath/Emotional Sponge, Rock/Strong/Silent: "It's not that Rocks don't have feelings; it's that they need loving support to bring them out." 7 Types of Energy Vampires: 1. Narcissist/Sociopaths/Psychopaths 2. Rageaholic 3. Victim 4. Drama/Histrionics 5. Control Freaks & Critics 6. Nonstop Talker 7. Passive-Aggressive "But when we encounter (toxic relationships), let's do everything possible to protect ourselves & to be the bigger person as we learn to forgive the part of others that has forgotten how to love." "Quiet, spacious & orderly space" "'Electro-sensitives' are particularly susceptible to this. Electromagnetic radiation from cell phones & computers affect the electromagnetic fields around our brains & hearts." "As a child I felt myself to be alone & I am still. Because I know things & must hint at things that others apparently know nothing of, & for the most part do not want to know. Loneliness does not come from having no people about one, but from being unable to communicate the things that seem important to oneself, or from holding certain views which others find inadmissible." ~Dr. Carl Jung "You are not causing the events you are able to predict, & there is nothing wrong with you. Your sensitivities simply allow you to know certain things that defy logic & the limited definitions many people have of what is possible. Know that being an intuitive empath is natural, beautiful, full of wonder, & will connect you with all of life." "Whenever we contact intuition, we are in sacred time, not linear reality. The ancient Greeks had two concepts of time. Chronos is clock-time, which is measured in seconds, minutes, hours, months & years.... Chronos is often regarded as a realm wrought with conflict & difficulties. On the other hand, Kairos is sacred time, which refers to the right or supreme moment when opportune events can occur. It is a nonsequential & infinite state, outside linear time & space. You may know it as 'being in the zone'. Kairos is the realm where synchronicities happen, those moments of perfect timing. It is also the realm of deja vu, that sense of familiarity with a place or person you've encountered before in linear time. Kairos is the magical location of timeless, mystical wisdom. You can't travel to it using a physical map, but it can be reached with intuition. Kairos is the domain of intuitive empaths." "The empath's journey is the adventure of a lifetime. Sensitive people have much to be grateful for. You are able to experience exquisite passion & joy. You can perceive the big picture on a deep level. You are attuned to the beauty, poetry, & energy of life, & your compassion gives you the capacity to help others.... Your sensitivities allow you to be caring, vulnerable & aware being." "As empaths, you also have the power to positively change yourself, your family, & the rest of the world. In my medical practice, I've seen how empaths are often 'chosen' to break the generational patterns of negativity in their families. They don't necessarily volunteer for this role on a conscious level, but it's nonetheless their destiny to fulfill it. When empaths heal themselves & say 'yes' to honoring their sensitivities, they are saying 'no' to patterns of abuse, neglect, & addiction that have been repeated in their relatives. The intergenerational transmission of pain stops with them. Through their recovery & the acceptance of their gifts, empaths are the one who can repair the greater familial whole. Mindful, conscious people are the most effective agents of change."

  5. 5 out of 5

    Marisa

    Do you ever read a book and think "This is my life?" That was this book for me. It took me a long time to read through it, because I kept stopping every few pages to just let the truthbombs sink in.

  6. 5 out of 5

    Janet

    "Sometimes I need to go off on my own. I'm not sad. I'm not angry. I'm just recharging my batteries." "Empath Affirmation: In a quiet state of self-acceptance, tell yourself: I deserve to be in a loving relationship where I feel comfortable. I deserve to express my true needs. I deserve to have my sensitivities respected. I deserve to be heard." "Protect Yourself from Victims (KAD): *Set compassionate and clear boundaries. *Use the Three-Minute Phone Call (Listen briefly then tell your family me "Sometimes I need to go off on my own. I'm not sad. I'm not angry. I'm just recharging my batteries." "Empath Affirmation: In a quiet state of self-acceptance, tell yourself: I deserve to be in a loving relationship where I feel comfortable. I deserve to express my true needs. I deserve to have my sensitivities respected. I deserve to be heard." "Protect Yourself from Victims (KAD): *Set compassionate and clear boundaries. *Use the Three-Minute Phone Call (Listen briefly then tell your family member, "I support you, but can only listen for a few minutes if you keep rehashing the same issues. Perhaps you could benefit from finding a therapist to help you."*Say No with a smile. *Set limits with body language. "Take a personal retreat, away from the world, at least once a year." (+Author offers weekend retreat @ Esalen Institute in Big Sur.)

  7. 5 out of 5

    Amy

    Empaths are people who take on other people’s emotions, energies, and even physical symptoms of others because they feel things so deeply. I recently became aware that this has been contributing to a lot of my own health issues (both mentally and physically) and I needed guidance on how to feel empathy towards others without compromising my own well-being. The Empath’s Survival Guide is an incredible book on learning ways to manage these gifts, but also your ability to create space and bound Empaths are people who take on other people’s emotions, energies, and even physical symptoms of others because they feel things so deeply. I recently became aware that this has been contributing to a lot of my own health issues (both mentally and physically) and I needed guidance on how to feel empathy towards others without compromising my own well-being. The Empath’s Survival Guide is an incredible book on learning ways to manage these gifts, but also your ability to create space and boundaries in your life so that you don’t compromise yourself in the process. There were so many good things that I got out of this book from visualizations to honoring the ways that I’m wired and also how to deflect negative people and energy. It helps establish better routines for unwinding and learning what does and does not work for empaths. Not sure if you are one? This test might help! In the meantime, I can’t recommend it enough if you are struggling. This would also be a great read for the HSP (highly sensitive person) club too!

  8. 5 out of 5

    Snow White

    Too floaty for my taste, but if you read over the new age crap there are actually a couple of useful tips to be filtered out from this book.

  9. 5 out of 5

    Stephanie Middleton

    No. Just NO! I am a highly empathic person and a highly sensitive person, but have zero time for mumbo jumbo pseudo-science presented as "fact" in a poorly written self help book.

  10. 4 out of 5

    Kristina Abretti

    Context: I’m very sensitive. People always tell me I need a tougher skin. When I read or hear about something sad, it stays with me for a very long time and I can’t think about anything else. I was recommended books on being highly sensitive because of this. But turns out I’m not an empath. I related to some things (the parts on giving and receiving love), but most things I couldn’t relate to at all (the sensory overload, the needing distance from those with negative emotions, the sensing and tak Context: I’m very sensitive. People always tell me I need a tougher skin. When I read or hear about something sad, it stays with me for a very long time and I can’t think about anything else. I was recommended books on being highly sensitive because of this. But turns out I’m not an empath. I related to some things (the parts on giving and receiving love), but most things I couldn’t relate to at all (the sensory overload, the needing distance from those with negative emotions, the sensing and taking of people’s energies - not me). I did find out that my mom and brother - who are highly introverted and need a lot of time alone - happen to be empaths (I had them do the quiz), so I guess it was enlightening in that way. But for a survival guide, and given this is also for LOVED ONES of empaths, I found so little I could bring to them. I’m sure the survival techniques (affirmations, crystals, etc.) could work for some, but I found it hard to take anything away that could be useful - unless you’re very into meditation or very, very spiritual / into mystical type rituals. The part on plant empaths vs. other empaths lost me entirely. I’m glad I read it because I feel like I understand my mom and brother a bit more, but when I told them about the book, they didn’t want to read it.

  11. 4 out of 5

    Mira LaBelle

    I found the strategies helpful to protect oneself against people who will trample over your sensitivities. The assessments the author created to determine one's degree of being and empath and to determine what kind of empath one is, I found lacking. I was surprised at this. The author is a trained physician and has a background in science. Many people could answer yes to many of the questions on the assessment and not be empaths. A good assessment tool is valid and reliable. The book assumes if o I found the strategies helpful to protect oneself against people who will trample over your sensitivities. The assessments the author created to determine one's degree of being and empath and to determine what kind of empath one is, I found lacking. I was surprised at this. The author is a trained physician and has a background in science. Many people could answer yes to many of the questions on the assessment and not be empaths. A good assessment tool is valid and reliable. The book assumes if one is an empath, one is not the the many personality types an empath needs to protect him or herself from. Being an empath is not mutually exclusive from being a controlling or passive aggressive person.

  12. 4 out of 5

    Magdelanye

    We are in the midst of an evolution of human consciousness, and empaths are the path forgers.... It's vital that we learn how to avoid feeling overwhelmed so that we can fully shine our power on the world. Empaths and all sensitive people are pioneers on the forefront of a new way of being for humankind. p26 Imagine that you had grown up being told that you were weird, crazy, stupid, or evil (possibly all of these at once and worse) because you could sense things other people could not. Quite pro We are in the midst of an evolution of human consciousness, and empaths are the path forgers.... It's vital that we learn how to avoid feeling overwhelmed so that we can fully shine our power on the world. Empaths and all sensitive people are pioneers on the forefront of a new way of being for humankind. p26 Imagine that you had grown up being told that you were weird, crazy, stupid, or evil (possibly all of these at once and worse) because you could sense things other people could not. Quite probably if you had been told these things often enough, you might come to believe them. Maybe you might get so sick of people telling you to stop being so sensitive that you did stop. Rather than creeping people out you might have had to struggle to suppress your peculiar abilities. Since we may not know how to handle this sensory overload, we numb ourselves to shut off our thoughts and feelings, to diminish the empathy we experience. p57 It may be important here to distinguish between empathy and compassion. It is to be hoped that everyone has the capacity to feel compassion, the ability for mercy. Translated into action, compassionate people find it easy to identify with others and feel moved beyond self-interest. Some people seem to be stunted in the ability to feel compassion, perhaps because of their own insecurity. Many restrict their compassion to those they imagine most worthy of it. It is easier to feel compassion towards someone you know or someone in pain, especially if they are not making demands on you; it may require more effort to feel compassion for someone sleeping on the street that you have to pass to get to the restaurant where you have a reservation; it is hard sometimes to feel compassion for people who are narcissistic, shallow or flagrantly successful, and easy to resent for their relative beauty or exceptional talents. Compassion is a tenderness extended towards others that cancels out all feelings of revulsion, pity, outrage, fear, envy or any kind of judgment or need to assert superiority. It is sensitivity to the situation and feelings of another, without labelling or condescension. It has no need to condemn; rather, compassion links people together. Compassionate people naturally want to contribute to the good in the world. Empaths, when they are healthy and encouraged, are generally compassionate people. If they have not learned to refine their gifts, especially if they have been abused, ill or traumatized as a result, in self-defence they may appear otherwise. Indeed, in response to feeling overcome with sorrow for the world and the extent of the suffering, some empaths, especially vulnerable without guidance or support, choose to isolate or shut down completely. Empaths do not, for example, only feel for the pain of another; the pain is felt as one's own. This is especially true of emotional pain. Empaths pick up on moods, lies, sorrow, fury, pain, longing, hypocrisy; these abilities are not limited in time and space. We often have trouble distinguishing someone else's discomfort from our own. Also, some empaths have profound spiritual and intuitive experiences....some are even able to communicate with animals, nature, and their inner guides. p6 Extra sensitivity to environment, light and sound and smell and tactile sensations; sensing auras and psychic disturbances; predicting the future or hidden present: all of these skills are not generally acknowledged or validated. Even during eras that doted on the mystical and sought out otherworldly entities with their seances and occult science, these were not quite respectable. Empaths have been worshipped and enshrined; they have been burned at the stake, drowned, stoned, buried alive, as witches. Modern science has it's own views as documented in their book of diagnostic classification. If your doctor is convinced that you are a witch, or maybe just depressed or angry or confused you will be proscribed medication. Along comes Judith Orloff. Bridging both worlds, she is a qualified doctor of the Western Medical system, and she has cultivated the empathic abilities she was born with. How she came to achieve this is personably told in her autobiography, Second Sight: An Intuitive Psychiatrist Tells Her Extraordinary Story and Shows You How To Tap Your Own Inner Wisdom. By trusting her intuition, she developed it. Having the credentials and on the right path, she has been able to break the shameful stereotypes that have branded empaths as perpetual outsiders. More and more hospitals are employing medical intuitives and educating their staff. Executives are bringing in empathic consultants and sponsoring workshops on developing empathy. This can only be a good thing, right? Well, um, forgive me if I worry that the lovely and brave JO is going to be shuffled by marketers into a trendy pop flavour of the day and made into an industry. Business has a way of siphoning peoples ideas of content to use for advertising. I am not sure that business is compatible with empathy. Does it really matter if your boss is empathic when you are fired? Or, for that matter, if your landlord is empathic while informing you that you are now going to have to leave by the end of the next month and you have no where to go? Surely empathy is a quality that would prevent those scenarios from actualizing. Surely empathy is a quality that indeed is needed to bring this world back into equilibrium. If you are an empath, you no longer have to feel ashamed or to automatically hide or ignore your abilities. JO calls them gifts. Hopefully this book will help you stop encountering them as a curse. And if you find this book early enough it may save you some anguish as JO navigates the reader through an array of useful strategies, practical tips and exercises for handling the often awkward, bewildering and overwhelming signals that empaths attract, including how to deal with energy vampires and toxic overload. She also opens up the nuances of empathic ability and she offers do it yourself diagnostics. JO normalizes the abstract without explaining away the mystery of of it all. If I wanted more from this book, because of its importance I am bumping it up to 5 stars in the GR system, though it would be 6/7 in mine. The format was so standard as to verge on generic. I had an additional problem with my hard cover library copy because it was water damaged and the pages were all crinkled. It would be nice to see an illustrated edition, if not an arty coffee table version (please not) something with illustrations that reflected a contemplative mood rather than a text book. More seriously, I found a few of chapters, especially the one on addiction, skimpy. I was often reminded throughout this book that it is a primer and that it is still important to reassure the general public that empathy can co-exist with the mainstream. If some people have classified this book as woo-woo, they are probably not empaths. JO crams a lot into this trailblazing effort. She may urge the reader to try some thing or another, but her manner is to wake up her readers curiosity and nudge rather that lecture or push. I can't wait for more. The more you use these strategies, the more energized you'll feel and the less prone you'll be to burnout. p179 Combining the knowledge of conventional science and the wisdom of intuitive medicine does a great service. p180

  13. 4 out of 5

    sandy wisniewski

    Superbly Written This book was recommended to me when I took a workshop on advanced mediumsHip with a world renounced medium. I am an energy healer and have been studying and practicing mediumship. With all my studying, classes and private therapy I had never heard of an Empath. Sure, I knew the word but really never knew what it meant. The medium who recommended this book said I was an Empath. Intrigued, I bought the book. The book was easy to follow, understand and the exercises very helpful. It Superbly Written This book was recommended to me when I took a workshop on advanced mediumsHip with a world renounced medium. I am an energy healer and have been studying and practicing mediumship. With all my studying, classes and private therapy I had never heard of an Empath. Sure, I knew the word but really never knew what it meant. The medium who recommended this book said I was an Empath. Intrigued, I bought the book. The book was easy to follow, understand and the exercises very helpful. It was very well written. On a personal note this knowledge has personally and profoundly changed my life. Until now I always felt bad and inadequate for being so sensitive. I always came from the perspective I have to try and "fix myself." While all along I knew I had gifts and I was utilizing them, the very center of who I was I knew instinctively was missing. Because of this book, clearly written and from the heart, I can accept myself fully for who I am. I am not flawed, a person who needs fixing. I actually have learned that I should enhance my natural gifts of sensitivity. Ironic and deeply liberating. Many, many thanks, Judith. You have been a beautiful light in my life.

  14. 4 out of 5

    Leslie Goddard

    One of those books that made me say, holy crap, that’s me. So many things that I’ve always thought were just me being overly sensitive snapped into a new perspective. I’m not totally convinced by her arguments about telepathy and seeing into the future, but the idea that some people are deeply attuned to the feelings of others that they take on those feelings themselves makes so much sense. I feel less weird about things like feeling overwhelmingly in pain when I drop off my dogs at the kennel o One of those books that made me say, holy crap, that’s me. So many things that I’ve always thought were just me being overly sensitive snapped into a new perspective. I’m not totally convinced by her arguments about telepathy and seeing into the future, but the idea that some people are deeply attuned to the feelings of others that they take on those feelings themselves makes so much sense. I feel less weird about things like feeling overwhelmingly in pain when I drop off my dogs at the kennel or finding the energy at parties absolutely draining. And I’ve never considered how being an empath could be not just a drawback but actually a positive attribute explaining a lot of the joy and creativity I find in life. Really eye-opening and so, so comforting to have a viewpoint adjusted.

  15. 5 out of 5

    Amy

    I despise yoga speak and talk of auras, pranas, etc. so I don’t think I’ll be able to finish this book even though I was hoping it could help me. I may read the part about time vampires, I have a phone one I need to deal with, tuning out isn’t enough. I wanted to love this book but can’t get past the mystical writing style.

  16. 5 out of 5

    Avalon

    *3.5 stars rounded up* The Empath Survival Guide is a solid intro for sensitive souls who suspect they might be empaths. Apparently I was more well-versed on this topic than I thought because most of the information was stuff I already knew. Sometimes I disagreed with Orloff about her ideas regarding empaths. For example, I don’t think that dividing people up into categories is helpful, and some of said categories were downright odd or seemingly irrelevant. Is it really necessary to label yoursel *3.5 stars rounded up* The Empath Survival Guide is a solid intro for sensitive souls who suspect they might be empaths. Apparently I was more well-versed on this topic than I thought because most of the information was stuff I already knew. Sometimes I disagreed with Orloff about her ideas regarding empaths. For example, I don’t think that dividing people up into categories is helpful, and some of said categories were downright odd or seemingly irrelevant. Is it really necessary to label yourself as a “relationship empath” or “earth empath,” etc? Aside from these minor criticisms I do appreciate that the author wrote a somewhat practical guide for those still discovering and navigating their journey as a HSP and/or empath.

  17. 5 out of 5

    Sonia

    I found this book very validating in its description of the characteristics of empaths, and even just in its acknowledgment that people do in fact exist who are deeply affected by the energy and emotions of others. I recognized a lot of things about myself that I've spent a great deal of time denying, and identified qualities in others who I know are also highly empathic. I think books like this are helpful because our society is so intent on belittling and attacking people for being "sensitive, I found this book very validating in its description of the characteristics of empaths, and even just in its acknowledgment that people do in fact exist who are deeply affected by the energy and emotions of others. I recognized a lot of things about myself that I've spent a great deal of time denying, and identified qualities in others who I know are also highly empathic. I think books like this are helpful because our society is so intent on belittling and attacking people for being "sensitive," which is often perceived as an automatic sign of weakness. I definitely appreciated the way the book highlighted the strengths of empaths as well as the ways they need to protect themselves in a world that can be overwhelming. I think the book is less effective in its "strategies," many of which are very basic and not very well-described forms of meditation or visualization. Orloff has a tendency to tell you to do something without actually telling you HOW to do it, which I found frustrating. There's also some stuff in here that's a bit TOO woo-woo for my taste - and I have a pretty high bar. I'm just never going to get behind the healing crystals, you guys.

  18. 4 out of 5

    Jenny

    One of the best self growth books I've ever read; felt like it was written just for me!

  19. 5 out of 5

    Elizabeth

    Loved it! Thanks to Gina Schampers for the recommendation. I have to own this for my personal library. From the dust jacket: "For any sensitive person who's been told to 'grow a thick skin', here is a lifelong guide for staying fully open while building resilience, exploring your gifts of depth and compassion, and feeling welcome and valued by a world that desperately needs what you have to offer." Yes, this book delivers on this promise. *Water as healing was SPOT ON for me: I have a love of wa Loved it! Thanks to Gina Schampers for the recommendation. I have to own this for my personal library. From the dust jacket: "For any sensitive person who's been told to 'grow a thick skin', here is a lifelong guide for staying fully open while building resilience, exploring your gifts of depth and compassion, and feeling welcome and valued by a world that desperately needs what you have to offer." Yes, this book delivers on this promise. *Water as healing was SPOT ON for me: I have a love of water as a soother, sometimes bathing several times in a day.

  20. 4 out of 5

    Iona Stewart

    This is an excellent book about all aspects of being an empath. The author, a psychiatrist and herself an empath, compares empaths to Highly Sensitive People (HSPs). Some of their traits are “a low threshold for stimulation, the need for alone time, sensitivity to light, sound and smell, and an aversion to large groups”. She fails to mention, however, that these traits are also found on those on the autism spectrum. She explains that empaths, as opposed to HSPs, absorb other people’s energies and This is an excellent book about all aspects of being an empath. The author, a psychiatrist and herself an empath, compares empaths to Highly Sensitive People (HSPs). Some of their traits are “a low threshold for stimulation, the need for alone time, sensitivity to light, sound and smell, and an aversion to large groups”. She fails to mention, however, that these traits are also found on those on the autism spectrum. She explains that empaths, as opposed to HSPs, absorb other people’s energies and have profound spiritual and intuitive experiences. There are various types of empaths, physical empaths, emotional empaths, intuitive empaths, telepathic empaths and so on, and the author provides full descriptions of all these types. Since I too am an empath, the book elucidates many things for me, including why I never have been able to stand, or participate in, small talk. The book made me feel understood. One patient told the author; “Only one-to-one contact with people is bearable.” Judith gives us a shielding visualization for empaths, which only takes five minutes or so and helps us to block out toxic energy. By this means we can put ourselves in a safe bubble where we won’t be drained. We need to ground and earth – again, a visualization is provided. It is a blessing to be an empath. Our presence, our sweetness, our tender appreciation for people and all of life are gifts. We should appreciate ourselves, our openness and our ability to feel. We are special and perfect. Here is one of the author’s empath affirmations: “I vow to honor my sensitivities and treat myself lovingly as I explore what it means to be an empath and embrace my gifts. I will appreciate myself every day.” We are provided with valuable chapters about relationships, addictions, protection from narcissists and other energy vampires, parenting, work, etc etc. I highly recommend that you read/purchase this book if you suspect you might be an empath, or know that you are. Five stars.

  21. 5 out of 5

    Manecia Mullins

    WOW!...what a life changer. I had no idea that all of these years that my ability to be able to read, feel or absorb other people's energy actually had a name. After reading this book I felt empowered knowing that I had a special gift that allows me to connect to people especially who need help processing negative emotions...which is no surprise that I am a Relationship/Life Coach. Also, knowing that I am an empath also helps me to define and set boundaries for negative people and circumstances WOW!...what a life changer. I had no idea that all of these years that my ability to be able to read, feel or absorb other people's energy actually had a name. After reading this book I felt empowered knowing that I had a special gift that allows me to connect to people especially who need help processing negative emotions...which is no surprise that I am a Relationship/Life Coach. Also, knowing that I am an empath also helps me to define and set boundaries for negative people and circumstances that may drain my positive energy. And how AWESOME it is to know that there are a community of US in the world!!

  22. 5 out of 5

    Logan L

    Conveniently compiled at the end of the book are all of the exercises for helping build up empathic defenses and tools for showing yourself compassion that are distributed through the book, there are some helpful things there. I sped read the rest of the book, this is one of those authors that I find truly grating. Major negative points for the uninformed and careless fat-shaming section.

  23. 4 out of 5

    Monika Kaushik

    Being a full blown empath myself, I learnt a lot from this book. Has helped me understand myself better and I feel really proud to be an empath. The skills/ techniques mentioned to keep yourself protected from negativity has been of great help. Good read for those who feel they don’t fit in this world.

  24. 4 out of 5

    Marilynn Farmer

    This book explained A LOT of things for me. If you're an Empath or think you might be an Empath or know someone who is, this book by Judith Orloff is a worthwhile read. That being said, some of her coping strategies are a bit New Age-ish for my taste, but I definitely plan to give some of her visualization techniques a try.

  25. 4 out of 5

    Ana

    Mind blowing and spot on! So glad I read this. I feel like I have some very good understanding about myself and also some good strategies for not getting so bogged down.

  26. 5 out of 5

    Stephanie Barko

    This is the June 2020 selection for South Austin Spiritual Book Group. Orloff has created a surprisingly useful book, whilst revealing her own struggles and victories as an empath herself.

  27. 4 out of 5

    Dori Rachel

    A needed book for those that have been told to get a "thicker skin·" I have been a fan of Dr. Orloff's since l read "Second Sight" where I learned about being an Empath. From there, I discovered I was an HSP (Highly Sensitive Personality). I have always been told that I am too sensitive and that I need to grow a thicker skin. I had a friend that would become annoyed when I turned away from roadkill. She insisted that I send blessings. It was more than just the sight of the animal, but the fact I A needed book for those that have been told to get a "thicker skin·" I have been a fan of Dr. Orloff's since l read "Second Sight" where I learned about being an Empath. From there, I discovered I was an HSP (Highly Sensitive Personality). I have always been told that I am too sensitive and that I need to grow a thicker skin. I had a friend that would become annoyed when I turned away from roadkill. She insisted that I send blessings. It was more than just the sight of the animal, but the fact I could feel everything in my body. As Dr. Orloff writes, "Empaths, however, take the experience of highly sensitive person further. We can sense subtle energy, which is called Shakti or Prana in Eastern healing traditions, and we absorb this energy into our own bodies. I have also been told, at times, I am a hypochondriac. Judith does a beautiful job of explaining why Empaths feel as we do. She gives mantras and activities to center and protect oneself throughout the book. I have read many books on Empaths, and Judith's book feels like a warm, reassuring hug. I agree with Dr. Orloff that empaths have diverse and beautifully nuanced sensitivities. "The Empaths Survival Guide" is a refreshing read on the subject of Empaths.

  28. 5 out of 5

    stoneroses16

    Orloff's guide contains a mix of mundane, stock-standard and uninspired suggestions (eating well, exercising regularly etc), as well as a lot of forgettable newfangled woo woo and garbled new-age spirituality, such as placing statues of Quan Yin on ones desk. Much of the advice is annoyingly repetitive too, especially details of meditative practice, which involves Orloff repeatedly telling readers to count and breathe slowly in and out, at almost all signs of trouble in their lives. As though sh Orloff's guide contains a mix of mundane, stock-standard and uninspired suggestions (eating well, exercising regularly etc), as well as a lot of forgettable newfangled woo woo and garbled new-age spirituality, such as placing statues of Quan Yin on ones desk. Much of the advice is annoyingly repetitive too, especially details of meditative practice, which involves Orloff repeatedly telling readers to count and breathe slowly in and out, at almost all signs of trouble in their lives. As though she has run out of content for this somewhat insubstantial book, she resorts to repeating herself completely verbatim, in the last 1/5 of the guide, literally copying and pasting earlier passages. There is also some embarrassingly shameless Dr Phil-esque self-promotion within the book itself, in the way of suggestions for readers to form an empaths' self-help group, with Orloff's book and audiobook as sole discussion points. Empaths, look elsewhere for guidance.

  29. 5 out of 5

    Michele

    This was a great book for me to come across. As a highly sensitive person I have definitely had to learn how to navigate life a little differently. Orloff's book describes me to a tee. I found her advice for many things spot on and were actually things that I already do in my life. It was validating for me and a really helpful read.

  30. 4 out of 5

    Lisa Butterworth

    I really teetered on the edge of giving this a two star review. I honestly started skimming like soooo much. Which is my first critique, this book could have been half as long, easily. On the one hand, I like that someone with fancy letters behind her name (I believe Orloff is a medical doctor?) is willing to validate the experiences of people who feel they have woo woo powers, seeing energy, being psychic, stuff like that. I like to leave enough magic in the world to leave open the possibility I really teetered on the edge of giving this a two star review. I honestly started skimming like soooo much. Which is my first critique, this book could have been half as long, easily. On the one hand, I like that someone with fancy letters behind her name (I believe Orloff is a medical doctor?) is willing to validate the experiences of people who feel they have woo woo powers, seeing energy, being psychic, stuff like that. I like to leave enough magic in the world to leave open the possibility of many things, and i think it's important to validate people's experiences even if I don't understand them. She shared lots of solid mental health coping mechanisms for dealing with the stress the can be brought on by being a very sensitive intuitive person with woo woo spiritual beliefs. I think on a pragmatic level that the advice in the book, if followed would be solid good mental health practice. Here's the thing, I feel like I have a fairly high tolerance for woo woo spiritual stuff, but this book seriously tested my tolerance like a lot. I love me some woo woo, when it's done well, but it starts to get on my nerves when one uses science or sciency sounding language to make unsupportable statements about your woo woo. Orloff often used her medical authority and fancy words to make very official sounding claims about things that are in fact not supported in any way by any research at all. It's the difference between saying "people have auras" and "some people feel they see auras" yes validate the experience, but don't make unproveable claims. And I'm okay with your woo woo stuff not being backed up by research, but please don't use language that makes it sound like it is. So three stars, barely, because the advice is solid, even if science-like language is annoying and misleading.

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