30 review for When I Get Married . . .: Surrendering the Fantasy, Embracing the Reality

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   5 out of 5

   Molly – Apr 27, 2011

   I didn’t expect much, judging from the book cover (yes, we all do, even though we shouldn’t, judge a book by its cover). The author’s name was unfamiliar, and the title wasn’t catchy. But the book surprised me. It got me thinking; it challenged my own ideas. Jerusha Clark identifies common myths--some so common they almost sound silly; I know that I for one responded like, “Of course I know that’s a marriage myth, I’m too intelligent to get sold on that stuff from the movies!” But then Jerusha expl I didn’t expect much, judging from the book cover (yes, we all do, even though we shouldn’t, judge a book by its cover). The author’s name was unfamiliar, and the title wasn’t catchy. But the book surprised me. It got me thinking; it challenged my own ideas. Jerusha Clark identifies common myths--some so common they almost sound silly; I know that I for one responded like, “Of course I know that’s a marriage myth, I’m too intelligent to get sold on that stuff from the movies!” But then Jerusha explores the myths with original insight that made me see that, at the back of my mind, I have been taken in by these myths—hook, line, and sinker. She helped me see the gravity of the “When I Get Married…” ideas I have subscribed to (willingly or not!), and made me realize my need for God’s grace to shift my perspective. Some of the wrong ideas that struck me were: When I get married, I’ll never be lonely; sex won’t be a problem; I’ll know what to do with my life. The learnings are fresh, the ideas flow naturally. But more than insightful, it’s a well-crafted book. The writing is beautiful, in some parts even lyrical. This is a good tool for singles and about-to-weds, but take care not to intellectualize marriage too much. I think you need to balance book learnings and head knowledge with a lot of God’s grace found in experiencing the daily grind of married life, and sensitivity to the Holy Spirit’s leading in marriage.

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   5 out of 5

   Michelle – Aug 15, 2010

   Very good. Explores expectations that people have entering marriage - and a biblical worldview and response to those expectations.

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   5 out of 5

   Keiki Hendrix – Jun 29, 2009

   Is your idea of marriage framed by movies, popular romance novels or your own idealistic fantasies? Would you know what will remain of your marriage after the honeymoon is over? Is the knowledge of a biblical marriage included in your Wedding Planner notebook? In Jerusha Clark’s new book “When I Get Married: Surrendering the Fantasy, Embracing the Reality“, the tone is set in Chapter One with these words from Isaiah… “Do not fear, for I have redeemed you: I have called you by name, you are Mine!… Yo Is your idea of marriage framed by movies, popular romance novels or your own idealistic fantasies? Would you know what will remain of your marriage after the honeymoon is over? Is the knowledge of a biblical marriage included in your Wedding Planner notebook? In Jerusha Clark’s new book “When I Get Married: Surrendering the Fantasy, Embracing the Reality“, the tone is set in Chapter One with these words from Isaiah… “Do not fear, for I have redeemed you: I have called you by name, you are Mine!… You are precious in My sight… You are honored and I love you… For the mountains may be removed and the hills may shake, But My Lovingkindness will not be removed from you, And My covenant of peace will not be shaken.“ —Isaiah 43:1,4; 54:10, NASB Drawing from biblical principles and written with a personable, conversational ease, this book takes the reader through ten misconceptions about marriage provoking the reader from abstract fantasies to the far better genuine reality if approached as God intended. Each chapter is filled with citations from other highly recommended books on marriage, offering the reader direction should they want to pursue the Truths the author presents. Marriage is the second most important decision in a woman’s life (the first being her salvation) and Jerusha Clark addresses 10 ideas in the light of scripture. 1. I’ll Always Feel Loved 2. I’ll Feel Whole, Complete, and Satisfied 3. I Won’t Feel Lonely Anymore 4. Life will Be So Much Better 5. I Won’t Have to Worry About Money 6. I’ll know What to Do with the Rest of My Life 7. Sex Won’t be an Issue Anymore 8. I’ll Feel Pretty (and Witty and Bright) 9. I’ll Have a Happy Family 10. It Will Be Forever This is a wonderful resource for the woman who is not afraid of Truth, who truly wants a successful marriage, and is willing to walk through the scriptures to establish her home. Gina Hendrix NavPress Book Reviewer http://vesselproject.blogspot.com/200...

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   4 out of 5

   Krystal – Mar 28, 2009

   I reallty liked this book (and not just because the author is a good friend of mine!). It gave practical and godly advice as to what to expect when married. She dissects the 10 most common myths about marriage and counters them with godly wisdom from the Bible.

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   4 out of 5

   Krystle – Mar 29, 2014

   Great read for anyone, no matter where you are in your walk of life; single or married.

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